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Our sexuality is the most intimate form of body language in our relationships with others, and with ourselves.  Dr. Ruthie is dedicated to spreading sex-positive information, advocacy and community building to all adults.  No matter where you live or the nature of your sexual experiences, Dr. Ruthie knows that you truly deserve pleasure and intimacy.  Dr. Ruthie is an assistant professor and graduate faculty member, sexuality educator and mentor, sex-positive activist, presenter, author, blogger, media consultant and frequent media guest.

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Dealing With Grades After A Sexual Assault

Dealing With Grades After A Sexual Assault

This post is in response to the article Colleges Need To Do More To Ensure Rape Survivors’ Grades Don’t Suffer over on Feministing.com Students of all genders who are struggling after a sexual assault are often also struggling with their grades. The person who assaulted them may be their partner, an ex-partner, a friend or […]

Being Open About Being Open (and Queer)

Being Open About Being Open (and Queer)

This year’s Guelph Sexuality Conference was absolutely amazing, friends!  If you have never attended, you really must make a point of visiting the lovely University of Guelph for this event next year.  Check out #UoGSexConf and follow @UofGSexConf on Twitter and FaceBook to see many of the highlights and get a taste of the excellent workshops […]

On books, drinks, and hook-ups

On books, drinks, and hook-ups

There is a thing going around Facebook asking why people don’t buy books for girls instead of drinks when said people are out trying to get laid. Since everyone seems to be voicing their preference about this, I will also put mine on the public record. There is a sense of obligation that comes with […]

A little note to my younger self about sex and relationships

A little note to my younger self about sex and relationships

Today an interviewer asked me to share something I, as a sex educator, wish I had known when I was in high school or undergrad.  Once I started writing I couldn’t stop, so I’m sure I gave her much more than she can include in her article.  I thought I might like to share the […]

Why I Love The Vulva T Shirt from American Apparel

Why I Love The Vulva T Shirt from American Apparel

When we talk about this shirt, we’re talking about vulvas.  We’re talking about our culture’s values around vulvas, masturbation, and pubic hair.  And the things we say not only reveal our internalized issues with those natural things; our words are impacting everyone who listens. __________________ I will begin by getting the distracting things out of […]

And suddenly there are tears.

And suddenly there are tears.

I saw this picture today and suddenly there were tears on my face.  Bert and Ernie were an important part of my childhood and I want to do right by them (and by Mr. Rogers).  This image fills me with pride at our slow, spotty progress… as well as the need to apologize for taking […]

The Stuebenville Article I Need To Read

The Stuebenville Article I Need To Read

When the media and the folks online turn their attention to a tragedy I often find myself getting overwhelmed. I would like to comment on the recent rape trial that is now in the media, but without adding to that sense of over saturation and despair. So, I decided to write the article that my […]

Thinking About Georgia O'Keeffe

Thinking About Georgia O’Keeffe

When is it appropriate for us, as members of the public, to eroticize the persona and creations of a public person who did not intend sexualization just because that is what we would prefer to consume? No, that isn’t want I want to ask.  I already know my opinion on that one.  How about this, […]

Thinking About Traveling Alone

Thinking About Traveling Alone

There is something very special about traveling far away by myself. It gives me the chance to miss my sweetie, but also to not miss him while I go exploring according to my own whims. I discover things about myself that I didn’t know, or maybe had forgotten, when my pace and direction are purely […]