Jul 122008
 
LolCat Finds A Blue Pill

LolCat Finds A Blue Pill

Is this sex positive news? Eh, not the way it is reported but that’s usually the case with the news I dig through. It is fascinating to me, though, so up it goes. The Independent, a newspaper out of Ireland, is reporting an interesting sexual reversal of genders. Young women with strong expectations for nearly-immediate casual sex have increased performance pressure on their male mates to the point that they are seeking Viagra in record numbers.

While the vast majority of men with erectile dysfunction never seek medical help, younger generations seem to be willing even without anything worthy of diagnosis. Afterall, human bodies aren’t generally made for on-demand sex. For centuries, if not longer, women have been plagued by the expection to be “ready on demand” with legions of commercial products available to us for that purpose. However, pharmaceutical companies have struggled to find a successful version of the magic blue pill for women. Our arousal and orgasmic processes are more complex, it seems. Now that women are on the hunt, heterosexual men are facing our old struggle to be ever-ready more and more frequently. Some men in the gay community have been experiencing this for years, of course, which is more likely related to partnering with men (regardless of one’s gender) than to sexual orientation.

This phenomena also speaks against the long held cultural myth that men do want sex whenever, however, with whomever. Many of us know better, but still subscribe to the stereotype at least a bit. The physicians, psychiatrists and certain young men of Ireland now know this to be false. Since both men and women like sex under the right circumstances, whether it be with each other or not, what’s the issue? That’s a darned good question. Experts in the article remind readers of the importance of developing an attraction and sense of intimacy in order to allow nature to do her job. I wonder about more core relational issues of basic human respect, objectification, and interest in mutual pleasure. Perhaps these should go hand in hand with intimacy and attraction, but it takes work for that to be case. I’m interested to see where this goes, if anywhere, in how we understand each other’s needs for all three aspects of pleasure: emotional, physical and relational. Until then, I hope the big money makers at Viagra don’t profit too much over this interesting movement.

Source article by The Independent – here

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