This week has been a pretty wild one with all the politics! I can finally eat solid food without a tummy ache, now that the election is over. While my friends in the sea of blue felt confident, it was kinda scary down here in the shrinking land of red. Regardless of how you’re feeling about the election results, I invite you to escape into this week’s sexy new fetish interview!
najah~c of Everythings Eventual joins us this week with an interview on her fetish of sound. Not just any sounds, but the sounds of BDSM implements in use, preferably when she is blindfolded. Throughout this interview najah uses the lowercase for herself, and the upper case for her partners. This can represent the power exchange between people who choose to consensually submit and their dominant partners, so don’t mistake it for email grammar! As always, this is an interview and not a how-to, so relax and enjoy najah’s wonderful stories after the jump.
Please tell us, what is your fetish?
i have many fetishes, the feel of a hood as it slides down my face, the tightness of a handkerchief as it tightens around my eyes. Those devices give me comfort, for whatever reason i do not know, because i am scared of the dark (that stems solely as being a young child, enclosed in closets as punishment, and left in the dark for hours). Another fetish, rope, the feel of it, the smell of it, the sound. In darkness (hood or handkerchief) the senses are so much more enlightened. But what is it really? Sound…. a sound fetish and i recently discovered this a few years ago at a local fetish club, sound. The sounds of implements, spanking implements. The sound as the implement moves through the air, and the sound as it makes contact with skin, my skin, or someone else’s. It’s not the sighs, or the ahhhh’s or the sound of a Man’s voice purring in my ear, it is the sound of the implement he is using. The reaction that the skin has, the cooling before the implement strikes, the reaction of the skin, the coolness as the implement is moved… The sound thru the air… Each implement has its own sound, the tweak as it flows through the air, a single tail has a distinct sound, as compared to a flogger or the naked hand.
How common do you think your fetish is?
Really i have no clue, as stated up above, i found out this within myself a few years ago.
Does your fetish, or people who participate in it, have any catchy titles?
Directly involved in the BDSM fetish. Or Taken in Hand.
How do you incorporate your fetish into your sexual experiences?
As of late, i have distinguished the two, i do not need sex to play, or play to have sex. It is difficult to not assume emotions through the play, but i try to keep those emotions in check.
Is there anything you have to be particularly careful about with this fetish? If so, how do you handle it?
This particular fetish, i can zone out, anywhere, like i said, it is sound. If i am at the club, i can just sit and listen to the sound, and if i am not careful you can find me sitting or standing with a gaping mouth, and tears flowing down my face.
What really works for you about this fetish, what aspects turn you on?
Knowing the release that comes forth, the letting go of the body and its will, and letting someone else have the reigns of control…
Would you please tell us a story or two about sexual experiences you’ve had involving your fetish?
A few years ago, i was in a local dungeon, and was with a Gentleman, there was a point where i lost all things conscience, it was at that point as to where my mind focused on the sound of the implement through the air, the reaction of the skin, and the sound as the implement made the fall. Again, the reaction of the skin, and the sound as the implement left the skin. Since then, sound has been a very erotic thing to me.
How do people react when you share your fetish with them, if anyone knows?
Certain people have said “You know the implements sound, you don’t even have to see it”… No, because hopefully i’m hooded or blindfolded…
How do you go about finding partners that share your interest?
i am currently on fetlife.com, under the screen name najah, or can find me on Alt.com as najah2004.
Can you recommend any resources for people who want to learn more or might even share your fetish? (najah~c’s blog is here)
Take baby steps actually, do research either online, or in your local bookstore, Borders Bookstore does have a great deal of BDSM on their bookshelves in the “Self Help” area or “Erotica” area.
But do research, don’t initially sign on onto any “porn” or “BDSM” sites, and demand submission [from an online partner], because any one worth its weight will laugh in your face. “You earn respect, you don’t demand it”
Anything else you would like to add?
Remember the five senses, sight, hearing, touch, smell, taste… All those things can be heightened or taken away, enjoy them… each and every one.
Thank you so much, najah~c! It is amazing to be reminded of the power of our sense of sound, especially when our sense of sight is sexually restricted. I hope our readers will continue to check in each Tuesday for our weekly interviews! If you would like to be interviewed, please drop us a line at ExploringIntimacy (at) gmail (dot) com and I’ll give you the details!
Visit najah~c at her blog – here
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