Dec 102008
 

 

Jarl Mezentius - So Hot Maxim Picked Him Over Their Usual Babe of the Month

Jarl Mezentius - So Hot Maxim Picked Him Over Their Usual Babe of the Month

This week we bring you Jarl Mezentius, who is eager to share his love of Gorean BDSM.  Gor is a fictional society in a series of erotic books that has inspired a large following of kinkters who call themselves Goreans.  Goreans usually practice male dominant and female submissive roles within BDSM, and adhere to a range of strict rules and etiquette.  Keep reading to learn more about Jarl’s experiences!

Please tell us, what is your fetish?

I consider myself Gorean; although I’m not sure if that’s a fetish as much as simply my Dominance in social situations.

How common do you think your fetish is?
Unfortunately, in real life, it seems to be rare to the point of near extinction. Although you may find many Online-Gor-Roll-Players, they are just that, Players. That is just fine, for them the fantasy is that of a lifestyle that they do not, or believe they can not have at home. Online offers them an avenue of escape from the reality of their day to day lives where individual circumstances may be different. I will not begrudge anyone their Fantasies or diversions.

Does your fetish, or people who participate in it, have any catchy titles?

I call myself “Jarl” (pronounced Yar-el), a title similar to Master  but with more Authority. In Goreanism, a master is simply master  because he is free and male and as such may master over those who  are not free, however a Leader of Free Men may have other titles as well, depending on the community, there may be Captains, Commanders, Ubars, Administrators, Jarls, Karls, and other Leaders of all types. In my case Jarl is Leader of a Home and lands, with Authority above other Free Men. I chose the title because of my status in my own Real Life Home, several years ago we opened the home to guests and residents as a “Fetish” home, with other Free Men living and working there. Sort of  a BDSM – Bed and Breakfast. That home is now closed, but I continue to use the title.

How do you incorporate your fetish into your sexual experiences?

I believe that my fetish expands around so much more than sexual  gratification or intercourse. It’s a Lifestyle, a way of thinking, believing, almost to the point of a religion, although I do get violent criticism for the comparison. When I chose to egage a slave in sex, I have a need that must be fulfilled and that need may or  may not be sexual, it may not even be MY need, but the need of the  slave to fell owned, Dominated, or slave like. I may even take one slave while forcing a second to watch, not because I need sex or even because the first slave needs sex, but because the second needs to be shown that she is, in fact, slave and I will not bow to her whines, demands or pleadings.

Is there anything you have to be particularly careful about with this fetish? If so, how do you handle it?

  Yes. Goreans must always be careful of others around them. We do not  live on Gor, so all aspects of these relationships must be consensual. However the terms slave and Master are used widely and may be taken wrongly by others, actions of Masters in their demands  may be spoken lovingly, but misunderstood by the stranger or guest  as “abusive”.

What really works for you about this fetish, what aspects turn you on?

  The requirement for High Intelligence in the participants. You are  required to know what others feel, and why, when they participate in the lifestyle with you. The levels and methods of communication are almost unlimited, along with an understanding of base emotion and instinct, and the inner desires of both Men and Women at a very primitive level.

Would you please tell us a story or two about sexual experiences you’ve had involving your fetish?

I once had a Free Woman grab a slave by the hair and throw her to my feet and ordered the slave to suck my cock. Not because I needed or asked for it. Not that the slave needed or asked for it, but because the woman wanted to know how she would feel herself, watching me take the slave this way, in front of her. Unfortunately, she found out that she would be jealous, a trait that is accepted in Free Women, but only so far as to reinforce their ultimate desire to be slave. Needless to say; she lost her argument, and refused to speak to me for days. The slave however, was quite happy with her task and enjoyed it thoroughly, as did I.

How do people react when you share your fetish with them, if anyone knows?

Many are taken by surprise. The type of surprise is one of two different emotions: Curiosity (mostly men) at how they can get  woman to do everything they want, and; Fear (mostly women) who think I’m going to force them to do something they don’t want to do… Unfortunately, the predispositions of Players to so drastically  abuse Online relationships, and the corresponding lack of personal  responsibility on the part of their “victims”, leads to a gross  global mis perception of what Goreanism is.

How do you go about finding partners that share your interest?

Finding partners actually isn’t that hard, there is a deep seeded need for people to cling together with those that share the same interests. Simply be yourself and go to Munches and meetings, groups and play parties and people will find you.

Can you recommend any resources for people who want to learn more or might even share your fetish? 

 Obviously the “Books of Gor” if you can get your hands on them, even online copies (copywriters will scream over this one) are good sources for learning what the Lifestyle IS… it’s up to you to decide how much of that you want to incorporate into your own life.  As for websites, I publish my own blog “One Man’s Journey – What Makes Me Master” and I use Live Internet Relay Chat (IRC) to keep in touch with others. I understand there is a huge ‘Gorean’ crowd on SecondLife which includes many of my past real life friends and slaves but I don’t  keep in touch with them as much.

Anything else you would like to add?

Sure! I’ve got lots of ways to contact me if anyone is interested.

 One Man’s Journey – http://mezentius.evbid.com/
  Bondage-Radio – http://bondageradio.com/
  Internet Relay Chat – http://fetlife.bondageradio.com/
  on IRC.BondageRadio.Com port 6667 in channel #FetLife
  mIRC and other client direct Link –
  irc://irc.bondageradio.com:6667/#FetLife

I’m Mezentius or Jarl Mezentius on IRB.

  also Bondage-Radio Forums – http://bondageradio.com/forums/  (sign up for for your own free fetish friendly blog space)

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Thanks so much, Jarl!  Your stories and insights on various aspects of Gor are sure to interest many readers.  We’ll be sure to explore your links!

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