This week’s kink interview is with Raven Darqhart, founder of Darq Desires radio and a lover of “extreme oral” with women. Just what is extreme oral? Keep reading to find out…
Hello, I’m Raven and I’m a freak.
Hi Raven! Please tell us, what is your kink?
Well, I have a LOT of kinks, however most of them have been discussed in previous interviews, so I’ll stick to one that hasn’t been mentioned before. Extreme oral. Deep throat, face fucking, the like.
How common do you think your kink is?
I think it’s pretty common among men. Some women find it degrading and some women just think they can’t do it, so it tends to take a certain ‘type’ of female.
Does your kink, or people who participate in it, have any catchy titles?
Face fucking, throat fucking.
How did you become interested in this kink?
LOL I was working in a video store and I was the only guy that worked there so I got chosen to manage the porn room. As I was organizing the boxes, I saw this one titled “Extreme cocksuckers” or something like that. Since I got free rentals, I grabbed it and watched it that night. I’ve been hooked ever since.
How did you come to start your own business in this area?
Well, my business isn’t JUST about this kink. Darq Desires Radio covers the entire range of fetish. We discuss everything from simple spanking to the most complex shibari, all mixed in with the best music there is.
What are your favorite parts of your job?
The fact that I can combine my two biggest passions. Fetish and music.
What are somethings you really wish more people knew about your kink?
That it can be taught. Some females think “Oh I can’t do that so I won’t even try.” Which is sad, because it is something that can be taught.
How do you incorporate your kink into your sexual experiences?
Well this kink is sexual in nature, so it’s pretty simple. I do try to incorporate all of my fetishes into my sex life, either by engaging in them before or after intercourse. Quite frequently, some of my kinks tend to act as foreplay.
Is there anything you have to be particularly careful about with this kink? If so, how do you handle it?
Well, there’s the risk of asphyxia. You can restrict the air of the person giving deep throat to the point where they pass out, so you have to be careful there. It also tends to get very messy. There’s a lot of saliva and other fluids that cover their face and there is a slight risk of suffocation or drowning if steps aren’t taken to keep airways clear. Mostly common sense stuff though.
What really works for you about this kink, what aspects turn you on?
Well, I’m a sick, twisted fuck. I like humiliation play and throat fucking tends to feed that, but honestly, no man I know will turn down a blowjob. This is just taking a simple act of pleasure and pushing it to the extreme. That’s what I really like about it. It’s extreme.
Would you please tell us a story or two about sexual experiences you’ve had involving your kink?
Well, my slave that I live with now wasn’t comfortable with it at first. She had been abused previously and this was part of it. After building her trust, we broke that red tape and she’s not only learned to do it well, but she’s come to enjoy doing it.
How do people react when you share your kink with them, if anyone knows?
Most people shrug. Either you like it or don’t. I’ve had a few people tell me that I’m a misogynist, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
How do you go about finding partners that share your interest?
Well, I am up front and honest about it. When I meet someone and they express interest in me, or I in them, I make it a part of the ‘get to know you’ discussions. If it’s something they can’t do, that’s fine, I have two slaves who are both good at it and love doing it.
Can you recommend any resources for people who want to learn more or might even share your kink?
Well, fetlife is a huge resource for anything in the kink lifestyle for me. There are several throat fucking groups there. Most of the sites dedicated to throat fucking are just pay for porn sites, which I try to steer away from.
Anything else you would like to add?
I’d love for everyone to head over to www.darqdesiresradio.com and tune in! We also have groups on yahoo and fetlife for the station. We mix the best tunes you can find anywhere with earnest discussion about kink. We are a radio station for kinksters, by kinksters and we proudly let our freak flag fly!
Thanks for taking the time to tell us a bit about Darq Desires Radio, and about extreme oral! I have a feeling that more than a few folks are probably searching for sites on it right now…
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