Nov 142011

In an on-going effort to help you get laid and love it even more, FunWares and I are answering your questions on sex and relationships every month.  This time around, I have a special video guide for choosing and using the right anal lubes.  The right lube makes a difference, and so does using it right away (and using enough).  Step up your butt play prowess!

Got a question? Tweet to @DrRuthie and maybe she’ll answer in a future video!

Sep 082010

Now for the third and final installment in my educational series on lube!  We’ve learned the basics about lube for vulva lovin’ and about how to pick out the right type of lube.  Now it’s time to turn around and try it from the back with my video on Lube for Anal Play.

Thank goodness he has a packet of silicone lube in his other rear pocket!

And, for added inspiration, heres a little image I found bouncing around online.  Not that butt-play is only for gay guys, mind you, but just to show some appreciation for the fellas.  All genders and all sexualities are built to enjoy well-lubed, well done anal play!  It’s just naturally fun.

My next video in this series will be on finding and loving the G spot by hand!  After that we’ll focus on G spot toys before we start looking at exploring his prostate.  Ooh la-la!

May 282010
Wet Platinum for Easy Pumping

Wet Platinum for Easy Pumping

Hey LA Times, quit trying scare people off using anal lube with your unethical writing!  You should know better!

This past week the LA Times came out with this frightening, unfounded and rediculously sex-negative announcement, written by Thomas H. Maugh II:

Lubricants may increase disease risk of anal sex, studies show

I wonder how many people read to the bottom of the article to note that it depends on the quality of the lube you’re using.  Furthermore, the beginning of the article notes that using lube during anal penetration (for men and women) may increase HIV, however it clearly states later in the article that the researchers were only testing for gonorrhea and chlamydia.  A different team would be checking into the HIV question in a later study.  That’s right, they are discussing two different studies and not giving full reference information for either, making it very difficult to double check the original studies for ourselves.  Argh!

Ok, so lets dive in a bit more and see what is going on here, according to the LA Times:

– A group of researchers (Pamina H. Gorbach and colleagues) at UCLA tested men and women for gonorrhea and chlamydia and also asked them about their anal sex habits, including what whether they use lubes and what kinds.  They found that about half use lubes, and those who used lubes were about “3x more likely to have contracted a rectal infection.”  Because this data does not appear to have been published, and is cited only as being from “a Pittsburgh microbicides meeting” I have no way to see if the rectal infections in general are limited to the 2 STIs they tested for or not.  I also have no opportunity to look for other possibilities.  For instance, I would like to know if they controlled for the frequency of anal intercourse or for condom use.  In other words, did they take into account the possibility that people who use lube might also be having far more anal intercourse? Did they ask about condoms and, if so, what was the impact there? There is no way to find out from this article.  Shoddy reporting!

– Then, the article brought in a second study.  In this study Charlene Dezzutti and her colleagues at U of Pittsburg reported that they tested 6 popular lubes on rectal cells.  They discovered that “many of the products had high concentrations of dissolved salts and sugars that draw water out of cells, weakening and even killing the cells. Some of them even stripped away significant portions of the surface epithelial cells on the rectal tissue, the layer of cells that serves as a protective barrier.”  In other words, crappy lubricants are bad for you.  We knew this already, although this does provide back-up information with helpful details.  PRE and Wet Platinum (a silicone based lube) were the safest while Astroglide was the most toxic in their study.  KY was bad for rectal bacteria (much of which can be healthy to have there) and ID Glide and Elbow Grease faired in the middle.  There was no info given on which types of Astroglide, KY, or Elbow Grease were used… we don’t even know if they were water or oil based!  And I can’t readily find out either, because the author neglected to give a date or media information for how this data was announced or published.  Seriously crappy reporting!

What can we learn from this?

– First of all, please be a savvy consumer of research.  If you could not look up the study for yourself based on the news article then something sneaky is afoot.  You need to be able to evaluate the original source for yourself; that’s what quality dissemination of scientific research is based upon!

– Secondly, be nice to your anus!  Use a high quality lubricant that is glycerine free.  What about the first study?  There simply isn’t enough information in the LA Times article to even begin to know whether we should listen and, if so, what it means.  We certainly know that skipping the lube increases the risk of risk of friction damage to your delicate anal tissues, and it can make things feel very, very unenjoyable.  Friction damage to tissue increases the risk of infection plus friction can also weaken condoms.  It would be a huge mistake to suggest that we should go without any lubricant at all for anal penetration!  Pick out a high quality product and proceed with protected, lubricated pleasure.

So, LA Times and Thomas H. Maugh II, you’ve been caught red handed with a piece of highly irresponsible journalism.  What is your response?


I encourage you to comment on the original article at the LA Times website and to contact them about their poor writing.  We certainly don’t need this kind of sex-negative, unethical, and incorrect crap coming out of our newspapers!

Comments are moderated, so who knows if mine will show up.  Here is my official comment below, for anyone who is interested:

What a poorly written piece of scare tactics! Mr. Maugh and the LA Times should be ashamed for such poor writing – have they no idea of how to review a piece of scientific research? Furthermore, there is inadequate information given to access the original research information in order to evaluate the findings for myself.

Clearly the quality of ingredients in lubricants make a big difference; trained sexuality educators have known this for a long time. There are also significant risks associated with not using lubricants. And, as other commenters have noted, we have no information about other potentially important variables like condom use or frequency of anal intercourse. Instead, HIV is mentioned at the opening to grab our attention, yet none of the research teams mentioned have even applied their studies to HIV risk yet. Mr. Maugh, are you seriously suggesting that we go without anal lubricant with this one sided article and assume the risks that go with such a decision?  Your unethical writing is inexcusable and I have encouraged my readers to recognize it as such at my blog.

Nov 012008

WET is offering free lube samples, and Babeland is bringing us the toys!

WET is offering free lube samples, and Babeland is bringing us the toys!

While visiting a good friend earlier this month I found myself blurting out “Friends help each other have better orgasms!” Sure, I believe that, but it was first time I ever said it quite so bluntly and I even caught myself by surprise. That said, allow me to extend the branch of friendship to all of you and let you know about 2 great give-aways going on. Yes, there really are free sex toys (for men and women) and free lube ready for the taking! All the details are after the jump.

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Aug 272008

Crisco - Evolve Past It.

Crisco - Evolve Past It.

Today’s Teasers are dedicated to the theme of lube! Use it, Love it!

Buy yourself a delicious new bottle of lube, leave it on the bedside table where you know they’ll see it, and invite your sweety (or yourself!) upstairs to experiment with Wednesday’s Wet Teasers.

(Lubey links after the jump)

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Jul 282008
Yes organic lubricant

Pretty Packaging: Yes organic lubricant

Product: Yes water-based organic lube and intimate moisturizer

Price: .9fl oz for $8, 2.6fl for $23, up to 4.4fl oz for $34

Purchased at: (I received a complimentary .9fl oz bottle, and you can too – here)

Summary: Yes water-based lube is a delightful, natural and healthy lubricant. Starting as a pleasantly clingy gel (easy to dispense and place), it spreads evenly and absorbs to leave skin smooth instead of gloppy or sticky. Yes has unseated the beloved Maximus as the nightstand lubricant of choice for vaginal use at The Explorers Blog. The bottle is attractive and simple to use with one hand. The product smells slightly fresh and plant-like to me, in a very good way, (although others have reviewed as smell-free) and has no taste. It’s pricy, but completely worth it. If you’ve never tried lube, or had negative lube experiences in the past, this is a product that will have you saying “Yes, please!”

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