Jan 282010
 

It’s official!  I’m now a volunteer Sexpert over on the Sexpert Advice section of the amazing Scarleteen.com .  As I address questions from teens and young adults I will be posting announcements here, just in case you happen to have the same question.

Anonymous asks:

Ok, so here is my dilemma. I just started college this past August. A few weeks into it my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me. I thought I would never move on and so did everyone around me. So, a week or so before we got out for Christmas break I met a really awesome guy and we hit it off right away and so we started dating. We decided to wait to do anything sexual till around our 6 month aniversay. Well, I really do like my boyfriend and he means alot to me. He actually treats me better than my old boyfriend, but he is overweight. He wrestled in high school, which made him gain weight, and he also played football, which made him lose weight. I’m 140 lbs and he is 250 lbs. Don’t get me wrong, I like the way he is and he is also trying to lose weight and making the efforts to do so. My fear is that I won’t be able to be intimate with him because of his weight problem. I have never been with a bigger person. So my question is, how can I get myself ready or prepared to be intimate with him without making him feel bad, because that is the last thing I want to do.

Ruthie replies:

Congratulations on starting college and on your great new relationship with a guy who means a lot and treats you well! This is an exciting time in many ways, and I’m glad to hear that you’re interested in waiting on getting sexual until you both feel ready for it. It sounds like you just started dating in December and are thinking of waiting until this summer to do anything sexual. You’re very wise and caring to know that an important part of being ready is feeling excited by, and supportive of, your partner’s body size and shape. This is especially true if your partner’s body is somehow different from other bodies with which you are familiar, including a different weight and size.

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Jun 122009
 

 

April Flores from a past cover of Bizarre

April Flores from the July '08 cover of Bizarre

Last week I spent some time pondering blow job wisdom shared by a group of same-sex attracted men.  In the end, I was left wondering how oral sex might be different if women that aimed to please their men opted to switch to giving blow jobs designed to please their own erotic desires.  This week, I’ve been thinking about confidence and greedy, lustful inhibition as it pertains to fat chicks’ sexuality.

Like quite a few other people in this world, I’ve been thinking about April Flores lately…

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Aug 262008
 
Fatty Delicious is a Sexy Mermaid

Fatty Delicious is a Sexy Mermaid

Today’s Teasers are dedicated the Thick ‘n’ Juicy among us, and those who appreciate more cushion for the pushin’.

Rub your tummy lustily, jiggle as you walk down the street, and lick your lips to Tuesday’s Torrid Teasers!

Enjoy these Plus-Sized, BBW sexy links after the jump!

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Aug 222008
 
Possibly Related to Tuesdays Twisted Fetish Post...

Possibly Related to "Tuesday's Twisted Fetish" Post...

Pick up some flowers on the way home, give your sweetie an extra soft kiss, and snuggle up together with Friday’s Flirty Teasers.

(sexy links after the jump)

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Jul 082008
 

Voluptuous Secrets LLC

Proprietress: Theresa Gazdik

Location: 1740 N. Martin Luther King Dr., Milwaukee, WI 53212

 

 

While spending time in Milwaukee, WI for AAFCS’s annual conference my dad and I were driving about and happened to spot a lovely little store specializing in “lingerie for the full figured woman.”  It was rather late in the evening, so we made a mental note and came back the next day to explore.  What a wonderful treat!  A tasteful window display welcomed us to an attractive, unintimidating store filled with luscious fabrics for seduction as well as sturdy foundation garments.  The best part, though, was the well-trained and helpful (yet never nosey or unwelcome) staff.  These women are proud of their store and offer excellent customer service to all shoppers.

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Jun 152008
 

Manuel Uribe and girlfriend Claudia Solis know how to enjoy sex across sizes

Photo: daylife.com

Depending on the historical era and the culture, fatness has been considered a very erotic attribute. In fact, it has been linked to health and prosperity for longer than the relatively modern movement to attribute it to malnutrition and poverty. One might say that it depends on which resources are most abundant, so when food and leisure are both rare, extra weight shows an access to these signifier of prosperity. Success has always been sexy, after all. Now-a-days the dollar menu is filled with nutrient weak, high calorie foods and fresh, low cal produce (and the time to prepare it) is just as far from the reach of many Americans as personal trainers and gym memberships. Thus, those who can eat healthy and work out clearly have access to those signifiers of prosperity, and thin is in. If thinness is in, that means fatness is increasingly common, and it so is. The good news here? For many lovers, fat sex is a hot commodity thats even getting a little press!

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