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Wear your desires on your waist with the Lash Belt

Feb 092011

We’ve all heard the experts tell us that sexy lingerie is the key to confidence, no matter what you have on over it. But what if you could send a naughty little signal to those in the know and wear your kickass accessories on the outside? The Lash Belt offers you the opportunity to wear a light, snappy fantasy accessory as an eye-catching decorative belt. While it’s not for heavy use, it’s sure to get your point across.

Toy: Lash Belt (sent by Babeland.com for review)
Type: Fashion accessory and light BDSM whip
Manufacturer: Incoqnito
Material: Sterling silver-plated metal, leather
Price: $89
SMT rating: N/A

The Incoqnito Lash Belt lets you wear a sexy accessory with a kinky twist

The final Incoqnito item for tonight is the Lash Belt, a leather belt with metal handles that also functions as a light whip for BDSM fantasy play. More than anything else, this toy requires the reminder that Incoqnito does not make heavy-duty BDSM toys, but rather fashion accessories with a kinky bent. If you are looking for a functional whip for BDSM-play, you will want to look elsewhere.

The Lash Belt is a cute, eye-catching accessory when worn as a belt. It can be adjusted to a large variety of body sizes (you’ll need to unclip the handles to adjust it: watch the video to see how). The metal handle is pretty, and is held together by magnets so it can be easily split to take the belt off and adjust. Using the Lash Belt as an accessory would make it easy to go from sexy cop to bad cop in a matter of seconds in a good fantasy scene!

Unfortunately, while the Lash Belt is a pretty, naughty fashion statement, its usefulness largely ends there. The leather is a cheap, painted quality that shows wear when the belt size is adjusted with the little metal clip. This metal clip, by the way, must be moved to the base in order to be able to use the Lash Belt at all safely as a fantasy whip. Personally, I also sometimes had some trouble getting the magnets to line up correctly when putting the handle back together.

If you’re looking for a fun accessory to wear out that might communicate a bit about your naughty side, then the Lash Belt will work just as you desire. It’s cute and noticeable when worn as a belt and when turned to its whip form definitely communicates a certain carnality. But as an actual BDSM toy, the Lash Belt is somewhat flimsy, easy to wield unsafely if you forget to move the clip, and isn’t as easy to use as one could wish. If you’re looking for a BDSM toy, you’re advised to keep searching.

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The Razor won’t scratch the Hand That Feeds

Feb 092011

I’m probably dating myself in one direction or another, but as a young adult, I was a big fan of some of Nine Inch Nails’s videos. Say what you will about that, but it’s as good a segue as any to introducing this fun, creepy-yet-sexy little skin stimulation toy. It’s a nice combination of classy, yet suitable for your fantasies about torturing Mr. Bond, Trent Reznor, or whoever works for you.

Toy: Razor (sent by Babeland.com for review)
Type: Portable claw & pinwheel
Manufacturer: Incoqnito
Material: Gold or sterling silver-plated metal
Price: $89-99
SMT rating: N/A

The Razor is an intimidating but sexy toy from Incoqnito
After kink-ing up the necktie, Incoqnito decided to also give us a sexy, naughty twist on the Swiss Army knife. The Razor is a classy-looking metal sheath that comes in a reusable fabric bag. But when you unfold the sections of the Razor, you’ll see it’s no Boy Scout toy, but rather a couple of sexy sensation toys!

The Razor has two “arms,” both of which are metal: a sharp claw, and a small spiky pinwheel. Both of them are attention-grabbing without being too nasty in terms of how harsh they are on the skin (though, of course, you should always be mindful of how much pressure you put behind them). It has a lovely metal design (in either silver or gold plating) and is easy to use. It’s nice to have the portability of these toys, since all folded up they won’t accidentally poke you in your pocket or bag. The Razor looks very intimidating, in a delicious way, but isn’t too mean in the touch, making it just perfect for some kinky fantasy play that doesn’t get too heavy.

As with all Incoqnito toys, the manufacturer wanted me to remind you that the Razor is a fashion accessory with a kinky twist, and isn’t meant for heavy BDSM play. Be mindful of this when using it, and look elsewhere if you’re looking for something for a big, hardcore kink scene. But as a fantasy tool and light sensation toy, the Razor is a classy-looking, fun, and easy-to-carry toy!

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Pull your loved one close with the Incoqnito Necktie

Feb 092011

Subtly kinky toys and accessories can lead to some very hot flirting and fantasy play. Incoqnito is looking to help you launch into some sexy roleplay with their new line of kinky goodies that could pass for vanilla items. They recently send me the Necktie, which will be a good choice for certain kinksters with a fetish for business suit attire. Read on and watch the video to see if this product is a good fit for you.

Toy: Necktie (sent by Babeland.com for review)
Type: Adjustable fashion necktie/light bondage leash
Manufacturer: Incoqnito
Material: Polyester and rayon, sterling silver or gold metal portion
Price: $54-59
SMT rating: N/A

The Incoqnito Necktie can be a classy way to lead your sweetie around

Before heading into this review, let me share a caveat that Incoqnito sent me with regards to their toys: all of their subtly-kinky toys are meant as kinky “fashion accessories,” and are not suitable for hardcore S&M folks who would put a lot of stress and strain on the toys. This applies to all three of the Incoqnito toys I’m reviewing. So, just you’re heading into your Incoqnito accessories on the right foot, keep in mind that they’re fantasy items, meant for light play and not for big scenes.

The Incoqnito Necktie appears at first glance to be exactly what it sounds like: a fashion necktie made out of nice, slightly shiny black fabric, with either a sterling silver or a gold “knot.” It’s cute and fashionable, and the metal slider means that you don’t have to know about full-Windsors or anything else regarding tying a tie. You just slide the metal bit up and down to change the size of the neck hole and shorten or lengthen the tie. But the naughty side to this nice fashion statement is that the Necktie isn’t just meant to be worn, it’s also meant to function as a sexy leash! The back of the neckhole portion of the tie unfolds to disperse pressure, and the tie is made out of a thick, sturdy fabric that will stand up to some tugging. It’s a sexy idea, and the Incoqnito Necktie is made to stand up to some sexy pulling without getting bent out of shape (though, again, it isn’t meant for more heavy play).

I do find, however, that the Necktie runs into some sizing issues: it tends to run pretty small. If you have a larger noggin, you might be subject to some unsexy struggling to get your head into it, even if you loosen it a bunch. And the length of the tie will probably be shorter than a normal, professional tie on most medium-height or tall people. For reference, I’m 5’7″ and found the tie to sit too high to pass as a real tie on myself. It would, of course, still function as a leash even if it wouldn’t be business-appropriate, and shorter people who find most ties too long will be pleased as punch with this!

Overall, the Incoqnito Necktie is a sexy idea, and is well-made for light domination fantasies. The biggest problem with this toy is that it may be too small (either in worn-length or to get it on over the head) for many people, and hardcore kinksters are warned to find something more heavy-duty for their more rigorous scenes.

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Babeland Satin Bondage Kit is tight

Jan 292011

Don’t get me wrong; roses are absolutely romantic. But I think your sweetie would probably rather discover you with a shiny satin bow wrapped around your waist and a matching blindfold over your eyes! Or maybe that’s just me.

Toy: Satin Bondage Kit (sent by Babeland.com for review)
Type: Satin, blindfold, wrist/ankle ties
Manufacturer: Babeland
Material: Polyester blend
Price: $28
SMT rating: N/A

The Babeland Satin Bondage Kit lends itself to all sorts of sensual experiences

Once again, Babeland brings pleasure to the masses by making an affordable Babeland-brand product that is high-quality and perfect for some bedroom romping. This time, Babeland is dabbling in the world of sensual bondage with their Satin Bondage Kit.

The Satin Bondage Kit is exactly what it sounds like: a black blindfold mask with 2.5-foot long ties (with devilish uses to be discussed in a moment) and a pair of 5-foot satin sashes that can be used for restraining wrists, ankles, or whatever else you feel like tying or decorating.

The fabric for the bondage kit is soft, smooth and cool to the couch, giving it a nice, sensual feel. It holds a knot well without being hard to untie. The blindfold ties and sashes are long enough that they are fun and have plenty of versatility without getting so long that they’re difficult or in the way. Particularly, this simple kit has remarkable versatility. The long ties on the blindfold can be used to tie someone’s wrists behind their head, for example. The sashes can be used to tie wrists to each other or to the headboard, or to restrain ankles, or all sorts of other combinations. In addition, the sashes don’t have to be used for bondage at all! They can even just serve as body decoration by being tied in big delicious satin bows. Finally, at less than $30, this kit is inexpensive, particularly for such a well-made product.

If you’re looking for heavy bondage equipment that you or your partner won’t be able to struggle out of, the Babeland Satin Bondage Kit isn’t what you’re looking for. The blindfold can easily be pushed up, and the sashes are well-made but aren’t designed for heavy-duty struggling. The Satin Bondage Kit is made for sensual bondage, not hardcore immobilization. In addition, as with all bondage play, make sure the restraints aren’t tied too tight, as you don’t want to cut off circulation to the hands and feet.

In summary, the Babeland Satin Bondage Kit is a high-quality set for sensual bondage. It’s well-made, versatile, and inexpensive, making it a perfect sensual gift for you and your partner.

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Lelo’s Intima Blindfold is a Silky Delight

Jul 182010

The Lelo Intima Blindfold is a seductive silk accessory to enhance intimacy with partners by introducing a low level of sensual kinkiness to the bedroom. Find out more about this beautiful blindfold below.

Toy: Intima Blindfold (sent by Babeland.com for review)
Type: blindfold, bondage toy
Manufacturer: Lelo
Material: silk
Price: $59
SMT rating: N/A

The Intima Blindfold is a sensual way to get a little kinky

The Intima Blindfold is a beautiful silk blindfold with adjustable elastic in the back. It also has two long sashes that you can use for a delightful bow (or, if you wanted to get a little extra kinky, some comfortable wrist bondage) and presents itself, wrapped in delicate tissue, in a very sophisticated outer box and an equally attractive inner box. The blindfold is a beautiful deep lavender, sensually soft, with its pure silk featuring a subtle brocade pattern that runs down both sashes.

The blindfold can be adjusted from 16 to 22 inches; reviewers found it most comfortable for a small and medium size head, suggesting that those with larger heads may find it a bit snug over the eyes. The elastic back adjusts to a range of medium head sizes and the slim, contoured design is not only comfortable, but seductively attractive.

The gorgeous, sensual Intima Silk Blindfold from Lelo, romantically packaged and designed, will make a wonderful gift and delightful memories!