The heat of summer is here, and it’s time for you to start exploring your steamier fantasies.   Need a little help learning how to work with your rope, seduce your sweetie into taking control, or entice your lover into a bit of role play?   Then this is the contest for you!

Last month’s contest with Babeland was so much fun that I’ve decided to offer another fantastic opportunity to win sexy prizes for July.  This month I’ve joined forces with the luscious KinkAcademy for an incredibly kinky prize package for one lucky winner!  Seriously, this is one heck of a great package and you can enter to win up to three times.  Keep reading for all the juicy details on our kinky prizes and how you can win!

Prizes:

  • Three month membership to KinkAcademy.com – If you’re seriously interested in discovering more about your erotic self, and exploring creative and kinky new ways to enjoy sensuality then get ready for the Kink Academy…a revolution in sex, gender, and kink education for those that are newly curious as well as those that are well versed in such things! That’s the philosophy here at The Kink Academy, if there’s something about BDSM, fetishes, gender, and sexuality that you want to learn, you have a right to…no matter where you live or who you are.  By the way, I’m a proud member of the KinkAcademy faculty, so be sure to watch my videos on Fantasies for the Shy while you’re there!
  • Exploring Sensuality Journal – This goody is a KinkAcademy original!  Keep track of your sexy desires, discover creative inspiration, and expand your BDSM experiences with this structured journal. Helpful as a communication tool for couples! You can fill it out together, solo, or share what & when you’re ready. Great for self discovery even if you’re currently single! Either way, having a dedicated, organized space to write your erotic thoughts, experiences, & desires can help them become more conscious & more fulfilling.
  • Scene Starter Role Play Deck - Another KinkAcademy original!  These decks are a handy way to keep your kinky inspiration flowing, even in the middle of a scene! The verbal cues and handy phrases can be memorized or used as a starting point for ad-libbing in role. If you’ve ever had trouble thinking of “dirty” words or “nasty” names to use during your sexual playtime, then these cards will help keep those sexy thoughts rolling right off your tongue! (deluxe locking box not included)
  • A Full 60 Minute Relationship Coaching & Sexuality Education Session - in my virtual office here at ExploringIntimacy.com, skype or phone! That’s right, I will be your personal sexuality and relationship expert – ready to help you tackle your intimacy goals.  Bring my years of advanced training and practice as a couple’s well-being and sexuality expert into your life and begin experiencing the intimacy and pleasure that you deserve. We’ll start with a Complimentary Intimacy Enhancement Consultation to figure out where you want to focus and how, then schedule your free full length session to really dive in.
  • Everyone who enters will receive a (free) offer from me for a Complimentary Intimacy Enhancement Consultation by phone or Skype! Not everyone has access to a professionally-trained relationship & sex expert in their area, so this is your chance to spend a few minutes picking my brain about your pleasure and intimacy goals.  Watch your email for you invitation!

How To Enter:  There are three ways to enter, and you can earn one entry for each way. You must enter during June by doing one or more of the following:

  • 1) Sign up for Dr. Ruthie’s newsletter at this link! Not only is this a way to enter, but it’s also your secret source for free online workshop tickets and other exciting updates.
  • 2) Spread the word on your Facebook, Twitter or Blogs Share the following on twitter:  @DrRuthie & @KinkAcademy are giving away some very kinky prizes and I want to win! http://wp.me/pQOtE-AX #kinky #contests For Facebook and Blog posts be sure to include the contest link above, then come back here link to your in a comment below so I can count your entries. Yay!
  • 3) Comment below by telling me how you would add more kinky pleasure to your life with these prizes from KinkAcademy and an hour long private session with Dr. Ruthie.

Rules:

  • You must be at least 21 years old, live in the USA and be willing to share your home address for toy shipping.
  • You must have private online access with the ability to utilize UStream for viewing and streaming your own video in order to utilize the virtual office.  If not, we can do a phone session instead.  Remember, sessions with me are educational only and not a replacement for medical, mental or other health care treatment.
  • You cannot enter if winning would put you in an unethical dual relationship with kinkacademy.com or myself.  For example, you cannot be an employee or immediate family of either.
  • Up to three entries are allowed per person by using all three of the methods above.  You cannot receive multiple entries for doing the same method more than once.
  • Winner will be contacted by email or Twitter between July 1 and July 5 to claim their prizes.  They must respond with the necessary information within one month or forfeit their prizes.

So what are you waiting for?  It’s time to explore that kinky side of yours!

 

It’s May 16th and that means it’s my turn to host the blog book tour for Please, Sir right here at my blog!  In this case, you can most certainly judge a book by its cover.  And thank goodness, because that is one sexy cover.  Yes, Sir contains 22 lusciously kinky short stories of strong, sexy, sassy women who totally get off on submitting to the strong, dominant men in their lives who love to pleasure them.  Sometimes it’s a one night stand.  Sometimes it’s a long term relationship.  Yes, there are a few dungeons, but the stories in this book go way beyond that in creativity.  I was delightfully surprised by the range and diversity of these stories, as well as the form.  Each is relatively short, beginning with enough background to give a bit of connection to main characters, progressing to intense moments of pleasure (including lots of orgasms and kink), and ending in a prompt yet satisfying wrap-up.

True, there are a few stories that I liked less than the rest, but that’s bound to happen in any compilation since you just can’t please everyone all of the time.  Of course, as an educator I would have also liked the editor to have skipped any stories in which spit passes for vulvic lube and spit or her vulvic juices pass for anal lube. Please, can we retire that convention?  I make a lot of money on it as an educator from folks who struggle to try and make that work, but I would gladly give up that income for a better informed public that doesn’t suffer from so much chafing.  But I was thrilled that some of them included lube, and even the sexy use of condoms!  And in the end, it’s a fantasy book not meant for education, right?

This was an enjoyable compilation and I look forward to seeing what else I can dive into from her collections.  I see from Amazon that the editor is coming out with a book featuring submissive men and dominant women soon, so you can bet I’ll be the first in line for that one!

And don’t forget to Enter this month’s contest for a surprise premium toy set (it’s a really exciting one) AND a free full session in my online office!

 

It’s Friday, December 18th, and that means you have less than one week before Christmas, yet you still need that perfectly caring, sexy, and unexpected gift from the heart.  It’s too late to order the toy of the moment without paying for speedy shipping, my procrastinating Romeo.  Fear not!  Dr. Ruthie is here with a new annual tradition: Your Guide to the Three Hottest Last Minute Gifts.  Subscriptions and gift cards were once relegated to officemates, grown kids that don’t call home, and awkward holiday gift exchanges.  Now, they’re a hot gift item for loved ones, but only if you pick them with care and sincerity.  Consider this list, and pick the ones that will make your sweetheart’s cheeks glow (either set).

#1 – KinkAcademy.com

This site is a gem, and a subscription is the perfect couple’s gift for the romance with zing.  Subscribers have access to tasteful, educational videos from some of the top experts across the continent.  Learn how to finger your lover’s rear, tips for better kissing, suggestions for opening your relationship or exactly how to make your honey melt with that flogger that’s been hanging in the closet all year.  Heck, you can even learn to make your own sex toys so you won’t be in such a rush for next year’s gift ideas! These videos gently and patiently show you how to do the kinky things you’ve been dreaming of more clearly than a book can.  Videos are categorized for beginners, intermediate, and advanced.  Many feature demos in which educators show you how on real people; others feature appropriate props or discussion. It’s queer- friendly, and professionally produced, too.  As professional sexuality educator, I have high standards for a site like this and KinkAcademy.com goes above and beyond.  Gift tip: Personalize this one by creating a handmade gift certificate, along with a coupon book for activities that your lover would most like to try – inspired by these educational videos.

#2 – BeautifulAgony.com

Perhaps your lover’s style is more subtle, less kinky, but still very intimate and steamy.  Check out BeautifulAgony.com for a delicious subscription to real videos of real people masturbating.  What’s special about that?  This site focuses solely on their faces.  BeatuifulAgony has been around for a few years now, and continues to excite with images of gorgeous amateurs.  Thankfully, they’ve been featuring a wider range of body types, genders and even ages lately too.  This site is a powerful reminder to slow down and enjoy our partners’ experience of pleasure.  Gift Tip: Give this one to your lover with a note inviting them to create their own video with you, either to keep private or to share with the site.

#3 – Scarleteen.com

So, you and your partner like to spend the holiday volunteering, and the hottest thing you can give each other is the promise of a better tomorrow.  Spread the love by helping our youth to receive the highest quality sexuality education through Scarleteen.com.  They’ve been around over a decade and helped at least a million people, not including all of the friends-of-friends that get solid info traced back to Scarleteen!  This year, they’ve rolled out an amazing service in which young adults can receive solid info through text messages.  Clearly, a donation to Scarleteen goes a long way toward showing your sweetie that your love has no limits. Gift Tip: Have other friends who are similarly inclined?  Go in together on a larger, anonymous donation.

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Jared shares his stories of BDSM pride with us, as a kinky bi, poly switch and father

This week’s interview is with Jared, a very kinky, younger, bisexual, poly switch.  So what exactly does all of that mean?  On the vocab side it means that he loves BDSM and other kinks, can be attracted to people regardless of what is in their undies, has lovingly committed and open relationships with more than one partner, and can enjoy being both dominant and submissive when it comes to BDSM.  On a more meaningful level, it means that Jared shrugs off many of the categorical rules and limits that come with sexual labels.  And did I mention that he is a big BDSM community building activist?  Read on to learn more.

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Nick Adores Sexy Toes

Nick is Camera Shy, So My Toes Will Have To Do!

This week I’m pleased to introduce Nick, who is our newest foot fetishist to be interviewed here on Exploring Intimacy!  Nick likes to think outside the box, so his interview is in the form of a story with no questions in between.  This normal ‘guy next door’ describes how he first found his love of luscious toes and feet, and other kinky experiences he has enjoyed since.  Keep reading to learn more about the kinky side of Nick!

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Gary of India shares his experiences with tantric sex and BDSM

 

 

I’m happy to introduce you to our newest kink interviewee, Gary.  I believe Gary is our first interviewee from India and he has shared some great stories about his love of various kinks, combined with tantric sex, as well as the socio-sexual climate in his country.  Gary is also looking for hot new erotica for his online businesses, so all you writers might want to drop him a line to learn more!

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