Feb 092011
 

Subtly kinky toys and accessories can lead to some very hot flirting and fantasy play.  Incoqnito is looking to help you launch into some sexy roleplay with their new line of kinky goodies that could pass for vanilla items.  They recently send me the Necktie, which will be a good choice for certain kinksters with a fetish for business suit attire.  Read on and watch the video to see if this product is a good fit for you.

  • Toy: Necktie (sent by Babeland.com for review)
  • Type: Adjustable fashion necktie/light bondage leash
  • Manufacturer: Incoqnito
  • Material: Polyester and rayon, sterling silver or gold metal portion
  • Price: $54-59
  • SMT rating: N/A

The Incoqnito Necktie can be a classy way to lead your sweetie around

Before heading into this review, let me share a caveat that Incoqnito sent me with regards to their toys: all of their subtly-kinky toys are meant as kinky “fashion accessories,” and are not suitable for hardcore S&M folks who would put a lot of stress and strain on the toys.  This applies to all three of the Incoqnito toys I’m reviewing.  So, just you’re heading into your Incoqnito accessories on the right foot, keep in mind that they’re fantasy items, meant for light play and not for big scenes.

The Incoqnito Necktie appears at first glance to be exactly what it sounds like: a fashion necktie made out of nice, slightly shiny black fabric, with either a sterling silver or a gold “knot.”  It’s cute and fashionable, and the metal slider means that you don’t have to know about full-Windsors or anything else regarding tying a tie.  You just slide the metal bit up and down to change the size of the neck hole and shorten or lengthen the tie.  But the naughty side to this nice fashion statement is that the Necktie isn’t just meant to be worn, it’s also meant to function as a sexy leash!  The back of the neckhole portion of the tie unfolds to disperse pressure, and the tie is made out of a thick, sturdy fabric that will stand up to some tugging.  It’s a sexy idea, and the Incoqnito Necktie is made to stand up to some sexy pulling without getting bent out of shape (though, again, it isn’t meant for more heavy play).

I do find, however, that the Necktie runs into some sizing issues: it tends to run pretty small.  If you have a larger noggin, you might be subject to some unsexy struggling to get your head into it, even if you loosen it a bunch.  And the length of the tie will probably be shorter than a normal, professional tie on most medium-height or tall people.  For reference, I’m 5’7″ and found the tie to sit too high to pass as a real tie on myself.  It would, of course, still function as a leash even if it wouldn’t be business-appropriate, and shorter people who find most ties too long will be pleased as punch with this!

Overall, the Incoqnito Necktie is a sexy idea, and is well-made for light domination fantasies.  The biggest problem with this toy is that it may be too small (either in worn-length or to get it on over the head) for many people, and hardcore kinksters are warned to find something more heavy-duty for their more rigorous scenes.

Jan 292011
 

Don’t get me wrong; roses are absolutely romantic.  But I think your sweetie would probably rather discover you with a shiny satin bow wrapped around your waist and a matching blindfold over your eyes!  Or maybe that’s just me.

The Babeland Satin Bondage Kit lends itself to all sorts of sensual experiences

Once again, Babeland brings pleasure to the masses by making an affordable Babeland-brand product that is high-quality and perfect for some bedroom romping.  This time, Babeland is dabbling in the world of sensual bondage with their Satin Bondage Kit.

The Satin Bondage Kit is exactly what it sounds like: a black blindfold mask with 2.5-foot long ties (with devilish uses to be discussed in a moment) and a pair of 5-foot satin sashes that can be used for restraining wrists, ankles, or whatever else you feel like tying or decorating.

The fabric for the bondage kit is soft, smooth and cool to the couch, giving it a nice, sensual feel.  It holds a knot well without being hard to untie.  The blindfold ties and sashes are long enough that they are fun and have plenty of versatility without getting so long that they’re difficult or in the way.  Particularly, this simple kit has remarkable versatility.  The long ties on the blindfold can be used to tie someone’s wrists behind their head, for example.  The sashes can be used to tie wrists to each other or to the headboard, or to restrain ankles, or all sorts of other combinations.  In addition, the sashes don’t have to be used for bondage at all!  They can even just serve as body decoration by being tied in big delicious satin bows.  Finally, at less than $30, this kit is inexpensive, particularly for such a well-made product.

If you’re looking for heavy bondage equipment that you or your partner won’t be able to struggle out of, the Babeland Satin Bondage Kit isn’t what you’re looking for.  The blindfold can easily be pushed up, and the sashes are well-made but aren’t designed for heavy-duty struggling.  The Satin Bondage Kit is made for sensual bondage, not hardcore immobilization.  In addition, as with all bondage play, make sure the restraints aren’t tied too tight, as you don’t want to cut off circulation to the hands and feet.

In summary, the Babeland Satin Bondage Kit is a high-quality set for sensual bondage.  It’s well-made, versatile, and inexpensive, making it a perfect sensual gift for you and your partner.

Sep 262010
 

A lot of folks enjoy fantasies and role-play with a naughty little bondage twist, but sometimes you’re looking for soft, sensual restraint instead of edgy or rougher options.  For those who want to seduce with or be seduced by soft silk and buttery suede, Lelo presents the beautiful Etheria cuffs. They are strong enough for a delightful struggle, soft enough to emphasize sensuality and comfort.  Skip the cheesey porn jewelry and try seducing your lover with this functional accessory.

  • Toy:  Etherea (sent by Babeland.com for review)
  • Type: Bondage, wrist cuffs, adjustable
  • Manufacturer: Lelo
  • Material: Silk, suede
  • Price: $49
  • SMT rating: N/A

The Etherea Cuffs are a sensual toy for restraint

Many couples are intrigued by the use of restraint during sex.  Whether it becomes a regular staple, or a rare experimentation, using gentle bondage to liven up erotic play is a common method of spicing up the bedroom.  But some people may find the accoutrements commonly associated with such bondage–hard leather or metal, often paired with images of sadism–too intimidating to give it a try.  Enter the Lelo Etherea to give this activity a soft, sensual feeling of luxury that may help to seduce away those preconceptions.

Lelo knows how to make a product look and feel lavish.  Their Etherea cuffs are made from 100% pure silk and suede, with gorgeous brocade patterns on the outside.  These soft restraints are made to fit around the wrists, though they are adjustable enough that they could fit ankles as well, with long silk ties to attach them to each other or elsewhere.  The buttery suede insides feel seductive and comforting against the skin, and when tied shut, the cuffs provide enough restraint to feel secure without making the wearer feel trapped.  With their beautiful designs, they could be worn as a sexy accessory with lingerie (or nothing at all!) to help put naughty ideas into your partner’s head as you prepare for some intimate fun.

The Etherea cuffs are made for soft, sensual bondage, and would not be able to stand up to heavy, vigorous tugging.  That said, they work well for light-to-moderate restraint, and certainly aren’t going to fall off or untie themselves during the act.  They can be dry-cleaned to keep them looking as beautiful and delicious as new, and the adjustable cuff size and long silk ties means that they can be used for a wide variety of positions and uses.  For those who are into gentle, intimate bondage or who want to experiment but are intimidated by the majority of BDSM gear, the Lelo Etherea cuffs are just what you need to spice up the bedroom in a classy and sexy way.

Jul 182010
 

The Lelo Intima Blindfold is a seductive silk accessory to enhance intimacy with partners by introducing a low level of sensual kinkiness to the bedroom.  Find out more about this beautiful blindfold below.

The Intima Blindfold is a sensual way to get a little kinky

The Intima Blindfold is a beautiful silk blindfold with adjustable elastic in the back.  It also has two long sashes that you can use for a delightful bow (or, if you wanted to get a little extra kinky, some comfortable wrist bondage) and presents itself, wrapped in delicate tissue, in a very sophisticated outer box and an equally attractive inner box. The blindfold is a beautiful deep lavender, sensually soft, with its pure silk featuring a subtle brocade pattern that runs down both sashes.

The blindfold can be adjusted from 16 to 22 inches; reviewers found it most comfortable for a small and medium size head, suggesting that those with larger heads may find it a bit snug over the eyes. The elastic back adjusts to a range of medium head sizes and the slim, contoured design is not only comfortable, but seductively attractive.

The gorgeous, sensual Intima Silk Blindfold from Lelo, romantically packaged and designed, will make a wonderful gift and delightful memories!

Nov 022009
 

Midori is a true goddess of sensuality and kink.  You’ve read her books, seen her amazing bondage and fetish fashion photos – so come join me in at her workshops this week in Washington, DC through WholeDC!  And this isn’t a giant group event – this is a chance to interact with Midori personally while learning to seduce your lovers with your voice, or with sexy silk scarf bondage.  You better believe that I’ll be there both nights – drop me a line so I can say hello to you, too!

Aural Sex: Midori Teaches Seduction by Voice

Wednesday, November 4, 2009
6:30pm – 8:30pm

Whole DC is thrilled to present Midori! Come to her compelling Aural Sex workshop at the new Dulce Cafe and Lounge on Capital Hill (Eastern Market or Potomac Ave Metro).

The brain is the biggest sex organ and the voice can be the most powerful tool to create the hottest scenes. Midori will show you how to use the hypnotic magic of the voice to seduce your lover long before you enter the bedroom or the playspace.

Wrapped for Pleasure: Midori Teaches Easy Bondage for Steamy Sex

Thursday, November 5, 2009
6:30pm – 8:00pm

Want to bring sizzling, sexy, fun, and easy erotic bondage to your bedroom? Don’t want to bother with expensive gear or complicated ropes? Let’s combine sex with super easy bondage with stealthy scarves!

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